The Power of No

Written by Uyoyou Christiana Charles-Iyoha

The word NO is one of the most empowering words that you need to use sometimes if not most times. Saying NO may not make you a people person but the truth is that you were not divinely designed to be a people person and people pleaser. God designed you to please Him so that in pleasing Him, you become a blessing to the people He designed you to bless other people. 

Saying NO TO WHAT IS NOT PRIORITY, does not have eternal value empowers you to focus on what is priority and focusing on what is priority empowers you to accomplish God’s divine objectives for you. It also empowers you to quit the vicious circular dance referred to as busyness or what I dare to call the rat race of life which keeps you eternally engaged in fruitless and unprofitable activities that lead you nowhere. Apart from the fact that such activities are fruitless and unprofitable, they drain you spiritually, physically, mentally, financially; and sometimes impact your most prized relationships such as the relationships between you and God; you and your family negatively. Scrutinize such activities thoroughly to determine whether they are divinely ordained for you otherwise you delegate them to someone else who is divinely assigned to carry them out, that is if they have eternal values. But for those activities which are bereft of eternal values and tantamount to fruitless and unprofitable activities, a sheer waste of God’s rich deposit of time and talents as well as expertise in your life, beloved, the sensible thing to do is to thrash them in the bin where they belong. This frees up quality time for you to focus on what is priority so that you can allocate prime time, attention and resources to what is priority. 

Saying No to what is not priority also gives you speed. This is because as you focus on what is priority and give priority prime attention, your efforts translate into accomplishments. 

Saying No to what is not priority also gives you favor before God and humans. Why and how? You are focused on divine tasks and focus on divine tasks gives favor before God Who assigned you the tasks and Who will also instruct your fellow human beings to favor you. Esther focused on the divine task of representing the Jews before King Ahasuerus. God gave her favor before the King and the Jews were spared annihilation. Please read the book of Esther for details. Joseph enjoyed uncommon favor from Potiphar, the Keeper of the prison, Pharaoh and his court because he focused on divine tasks. When he was focusing on non divine tasks in his homeland, he attracted envy and hatred which fortunately took him to the place of divine tasks, albeit in what you may refer to as negative circumstances. But the positive outcome of those supposedly negative circumstances was great. Please read Genesis Chapters 40 to 41.

Saying NO also empowers you to set boundaries in both your relationships and your work. It also empowers you to refuse to be a dump site of other people’s irresponsibility and inefficiencies. For instance when people, either out of laziness refuse to apply themselves to learn what they ought to learn in order to avoid mistakes in their work choose to push that work to you; your emphatic NO will tell them you are not a dump site for their irresponsibility and inefficiencies. Also, when people are knowledgeable but have the awful habit of waiting till the very last minute to complete assigned tasks and then they suddenly realize that time is not on their side; and they think of recruiting you to help out, a FIRM NO will send them the right signals to sit up and do their work. 

Do not allow such people pile up their self generated pressures on you. You do not need them. The types of pressures you need are divine pressures that are divinely designed to help you move forward, excel and accomplish. Therefore, boldly say NO to such pressures and move on in your divine assignments so that you can be a blessing to your divine constituency. Has it ever occurred to you that no passenger flight is delayed on account of a passenger who arrives late at the gates? This is because the gates are usually closed by the time such a passenger arrives.

Beloved, work your divine tasks to accomplish the divine purpose for which you were divinely designed. Do not allow the irresponsibility and inefficiencies of other people rob you of your divine blessings which accrue to you when you work your divine assignments. Therefore, say NO to what you should not say, what you should not do, the relationships and associations you should not permit, what you should not eat and so on. 

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